Entries from 1994 are left as written, except fixing any typos. On reading these words again 24 years later I can see they don’t always form a great narrative structure and introduce people, concepts and ideas without any background. That may become apparent in future entries from this period and I’m also loath to add to this dialogue from the present – ‘knowing all the things I know’.
All written here dedicated for Steve Burgess R.I.P. 28/12/93
Many things have happened since Steve’s death. It was a shock to everyone. I remember when Rob called and Bronwyn called me from the other room, I could tell by her voice some had died and I initially thought it might be my mum. We were both in tears. And I was still getting over chicken pox. What a terrible Christmas.
We went to see everyone in Southampton on the 30th. We went to John and Selena’s. It was a funny atmosphere but we all had a few drinks and by the end of the night, we were pretty drunk. Selena spoke to Chrissy in the morning. She was still sad but seemed fairly positive. New Year’s Eve was the worst. I burst into tears several times with Bronwyn comforting me. I had a big cry and did feel better for it.
Things have been pretty quiet otherwise around this time. Thursday 6th was Steve’s funeral. It was very good (if that’s the right word). I’m sure everyone he knew was there. A lot of us went to the pub afterwards. It ended up with me, Bronwyn, Fatty, Rich, Rob, John, Selena, Gary and more (can’t remember). It got very emotional. I had a little cry and so did everyone else. Me and Fatty had a heart to heart as he was upset that I considered Steve my best friend – though we didn’t really resolve anything. Bronwyn suggested writing to him and after a day’s thought I did so.
On the Saturday me and my baby drove up to Southampton. We dropped in on Rich and Rob before going to Chrissy’s. I felt happy to be where Steve lived and didn’t feel uncomfortable in any way. I didn’t once think it was strange that Steve wasn’t there. There were lots of flowers and cards. Chrissy seemed very well. She’s been a lot stronger than I expected. Heaven knows how I’d feel if I lost my beautiful Bronwyn.
We went to pick up John and Selena. Selena said she felt a bit strange about going round but we convinced her it was going to be the best thing to do. I think people are worried about what to say to Chrissy. Chrissy just wants everyone to act normally. Rich and Rob were a bit worried about that too.
I took a bit of control in the evening by organising everyone (I consulted Chrissy all the time though), in the hope of relieving Chrissy from having to worry about people coming round. Selena phoned up Rich and Rob to get them to come down but she said Rich sounded a bit off on the phone. I snuck out and went and got them.
By this time pizza had arrived and a few drinks had been consumed. Everyone started to relax a bit and I think Chrissy was happy with that.
I had a chat with Amanda in an effort to try and get her to sleep!
Well, everyone got pretty drunk and had fun playing cards til 2 o’clock when everyone left and we went to sleep in Amanda’s room.
We spent all Sunday playing with Amanda. I think she enjoyed having a male adult around. I really enjoyed myself and had lots of fun though it was very exhausting. Steve said ‘The best thing you can do it have kids’ and I did find myself a bit clucky. Wow!
Rebecca’s a beautiful little baby too. What a shame she’ll never meet the man who fathered her and a shame he’ll not be able to watch her grow up. I felt attached in some way to Chrissy, Amanda and Rebecca and think it’s my way of hanging on to Steve.
I was sorry to leave Sunday night but happy to know me and Broni will be having our own kids someday. We talked virtually non-stop on the way home. I dropped the letter into Fatty’s too. Rang him up next day and he looks like he’ll definitely be moving out of there and we can move in. He said we should have a talk so we decided to go out on Thursday. I couldn’t tell from his voice if he was upset with me or not. He sounded kind of stern – like it was what we ‘ought’ to do. However, he seemed fairly chirpy otherwise which certainly is a change.
Spoke to Rob tonight about the poetry booklet and it could cost us a fair bit but feel it to be worthwhile. I’m writing an introduction which I think is fairly good even if I do say so myself.
Me and Broni had a couple of P.M.T. fights but we resolve things fairly quickly. I want to be more patient and understanding. I want to stop putting her down too I don’t even know I’m doing it. She’s great, really the best girl I could ever wish for. A true companion for the rest of my life. I’m pleased other people say this to me too.