No Longer Delighted – 10th September 2023

The golden age has been and gone
We danced those glorious times away
Left exhausted after the final song
The fat lady now has nothing to say

Revival is just a nostalgic fail
That feeling cannot be repeated
At least alive to tell the tale
Yet feeling sad and defeated


Today I’m feeling:

A little tired and unmotivated for most of the day. A good reading day. I feel like I might be able to force myself to do a little workout after talking with Amy and before eating something.

Today I’m grateful for:

The tool (name unknown to me) that was lying around the garden (used previously to try to break down the termite mound in the front corner of the garden) which I used to dig out the tough grass that the gardeners were too lazy to get out from in between the bricks outside the kitchen. The temperature around 5 p.m. is nice now so I’ll try and do a little in the garden. This ended up replacing my exercise for the day.

The best thing about today was:

Reading Clive James’ biography about his childhood in Sydney. He lived in Kogarah which is just a suburb away from my first Sydney home in Allawah. Although I only recognise a few of the places he talks about I can get a feel from my own memories of the area.

What was out of your control today and how did you handle it?

My motivation was lacking today and whilst I did a few things I hardly feel like I accomplished anything. I suppose I don’t need to feel like I accomplished things but I often feel like there are lots of things I could enjoy doing but can’t push myself to get up and go.

Something I learned today?

The city of Birmingham in the UK has declared bankruptcy. Things don’t seem too great there at the moment.

What are the most important moments in my life?

Boiled down to basics this would be moving countries and meeting the girls that I would spend my life with, for better or worse.

My old friend Fatty would often criticise me for changing my behaviour when I had a partner and from his perspective, I’m sure there’s some truth to that. I guess because of my father dying I felt my life was missing something and subconsciously knowing that one day my mum wouldn’t be there anymore, I held on closely to my girlfriends.

In my mind, I can kind of divide up my life into who I was with at the time. These people are obviously important to me.

I found this picture online because I was chatting with Baipad about pets and she said she liked border collies. Smart dogs. I still pine to have more animals but not knowing what the future holds makes it difficult.

Dreamscape and Delusions – 23rd March 1992

Woke up pretty groggy this morning, but soon revived with tea and toast. Alan and I got a lift into Birmingham with John and Ghita (after a little trouble starting their car) and we said goodbye before catching our respective buses out of town.

I had the horrible task of getting back to the service station where my car was. I first got a bus to Walsall, where I attempted to hitch up the M6 at junction 7, but to no avail. I caught another bus into Walsall town centre and out again to junction 10. After about 3/4 hour in the freezing wind, a cool chap picked me up just before it pissed down!

Got to the garage at the service station to see my lovely car and the wreckage of my clutch! They were still waiting for new parts and said it probably wouldn’t be ready til tomorrow, so I now had an overnight stay in the services – oh what fun!

DREAMSCAPE & DELUSIONS: I just can’t think straight. I’ve been up all night and my mind is floating all over the place. My body’s here – I know this cos it’s hurting. This is hard to write. The food in here smells great. It’s sixty pence for a tomato. Do you think they are special? The floor seemed nice – shame I didn’t get to sleep on it. I could make a life-size maggot out of the plaque on my teeth. That girl over there looks nice – pity I can’t see her without my glasses, not that I’d be able to focus my sight anyway. Oh, it’s a boy! Small noises are erupting around me from everywhere. It’s a cacophony. A symphony of knives scratching porcelain, lighters lighting, cups clattering and that chap over there chattering. Concentration is this big, no, this big. Maybe, this big. What am I talking about? Is this madness or is this me? Now that was definitely a girl!

Victims Family, Blowfly – Edwards, Birmingham, West Midlands, UK – 22nd March 1992

VICTIMS FAMILY/BLOWFLY
Birmingham Edwards No. 6

Being a relatively short drive to Birmingham, there was plenty of time to hang around before leaving. I had a pretty bad cold, but I didn’t feel ill or anything – just coughing up loads of phlegm. Chatted with Ralph for a while about the upcoming elections in both our countries, the recession, Nicaragua and the BCCI bank. He thinks the business with the BCCI and the recession are interlinked, and it’s quite possible he’s right.

After saying our goodbyes, we took off down the M6 to the sounds of Urban Dance Squad, which was pretty good. Once we got into Birmingham, we were half expecting to be looking for the venue for a couple of hours, but by some stroke of luck, the band recognised where they were and it was right outside the place!

It was still quite early, and the place wasn’t open yet, so we checked out Birmingham for some food. It was nice and quiet as it was Sunday, and I actually thought it was an ok place, though it looks worse as you’re driving in. Most places were closed but we tracked down a Pizzaland and munched out. Larry had some kind of pasta in sauce, which also came with some nice, sharp pieces of plastic!

We went back to the van and waited around for a while. We’d heard throughout the whole tour that this gig may not go ahead and were contemplating buggering off. However, much to my surprise, the place opened up at six. The club is really nice and had lots of lights and stage equipment etc. A bit of a bummer was having to heave the gear up two flights of stairs, though it got done quickly with four of us doing it (Ralph had disappeared off somewhere just at the right time!).

I met a chap, Alan, who I’d seen in Wigan, who’d travelled down for this show. He was practising his four-ball juggling when I spotted him. I wasn’t sure where I’d be staying that night, as the band thought they might head back to Leamington Spa. Alan also wasn’t sure where he was staying, and due to poor advertising of the show, there weren’t many people there to ask – about 40 at the most!

Anyway, Blowfly were the support band and they were ok, though they could do with a bit more practise. I felt a whole lot better after a couple of lagers (at the extortionate price of £2 a pint) and prepared myself for the Victims Family final UK show. Even though it was sparsely attended, I thought they fuckin’ ripped! Maybe they just relaxed as there weren’t many people there, though Ralph commented later that he didn’t feel at all relaxed (hm!).

They played pretty much the same set as the night before, and 3 or 4 of us cheered them back for more, to which they gave us ‘Sinatra’ and finished with three goes at ‘Stupid’ (a token thrash song off ‘ Things I Hate To Admit’).

Lo and behold, in the audience was that man Nick Evans (now of Alternative Tentacles) who’d come up from London. I found that the band were going to stay with him that night and wondered about a place to stay.

As Alan and I were chatting to Ralph, a couple of locals joined us and we managed to blag a place to stay with them. We took some final photos in the backstage room and headed outside, where the gear was being loaded up. Alan bought the only cassette in the UK of the new LP ‘Germ’ – only on vinyl and CD over here. Ralph told me his final thoughts on the tour, but due to alcohol consumption, I didn’t recall precisely what was said, except that they considered it successful and really enjoyed themselves.

I wished everyone good luck with the rest of the tour, and hoped to catch them on their last date, a festival in Amsterdam. That sure would be good, but finance may dictate otherwise. After bidding everyone a fond farewell, Alan and I headed off to the bus station. Halfway down the road, all the band shouted out “Hey, hey dude…later!” (which some of you may recognise from the White Bread Blues’ LP).

The place we were staying was out of town a bit and we had to catch a bus there (unfortunately, we couldn’t get a lift with the people we were staying with). We then had to find the house and throw stones at the upper right-hand window.
It all sounded a bit dodgy to me, but I was too drunk to care by now! We found the place ok and were welcomed into the flat to the sounds of Jethro Tull (Wow, have I heard some different styles of music on the tour!).

The two people (John & Gita) were extremely nice people. I think Ghita was a small-time celebrity with her multi-pierced ears and 3 chains to a nose ring, red, green and yellow hair and tattoos – a particularly cool Celtic design on her head and a smart pattern on her wrist. I think they liked my Circle Jerks tattoo too! We talked about all sorts of stuff from music to religion, and finally went to sleep to the sound of the Violent Femmes LP.